Mom

I’m happy to see friends settling down and having their own families. I admire women who aren’t afraid to bear children and raise them. Coz, I’m afraid.

Am I afraid to be a mom? I don’t know. Probably, I just don’t see myself as one. Probably, I want to do other things. Probably, I want a different thing. Probably, I want a different path.

Some women feel the urgency to be a mom. That they see themselves incomplete without having one.

But can I be a mother in a different form? Can I be a mother to my students? I can be married to teaching? Can I find my worth through studying? 

They said that the essense of a woman is to bear a child, to be a mom. 

So, how about those who have hostile uterus? How about those who dedicated themselves to their career? How about those who married their passion? How about the old maids who weren’t given a chance to have one?

Are they women without value? Are they women without essence? 

WHY?

Do I have to prove ny worth as a woman? Does it make me less of a person not bearing a child?

Dear Other Self

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Sabi ni Becky sa movie,  “Gusto ko magtravel habang bata pa ko”. Tapos, supportive naman yung tatay niya at sinabi na, “Sige, gawin mo kung ano gusto mo.”

Ewan ko ba, pero never ko talagang pinangarap ang magtravel around the world. Ang boring ko yata. Pero, kanya-kanyang buhay, kanya-kanyang pangarap. At life is a matter of choice. Kanya kanyang trip, kanya kanyang desisyon.

Sabi sa movie, “Filipinos can’t just quit their jobs and leave everything behind.”

Minsan, masyado tayong mapagbigay hanggang sa darating sa point na magsisisi tayo na masyado na tayong nagbigay.

Pero sa totoo lang, kailangan mo rin maging madamot ngayon, para mapuno ka bilang tao para pag overflowing ka na, makapagbigay ka na, ng sobra-sobra at hindi ka mauubos. Ideal, malayo sa reality pero hindi imposible.

Kailangan mo lang panindigan ang desisyon mo. Minsan kasi duwag tayo eh na sumubok. Kaya napapasubo na lang tayo na laging harapin lahat ng problema nakaakibat sa ordinary life pero ang totoo, marami pang bagay bukod dun.

Hindi mo naman kailangang pasanin ang lahat ng problema ng pamilya mo. Sa totoo lang, may freedom  ka na gawin ang gusto mo.

Sabi nga ni Becky sa movie, “Pag di ko siya nagawa ngayon, baka hindi ko na siya magawa.”

Buhay mo yan. Hindi ng nanay mo. Hindi ng tatay mo. Hindi ng kapatid mo. Buhay mo iyan. Gawin mo kung anong gusto mo. Dahil ang bawat tao, gagawa at gagawa ng paraan para makasurvive. It’s not your responsibility to be someone else’s oxygen.

Minsan masyado tayong worried pero ang totoo, we should trust the people we love na kaya nila. Dahil kaya talaga nila.

So, ginawa ko today yung gusto ko. Nanuod ako ng movie tapos nasa ibaba yung mga gusto kong line at ang mga ** bago ang side comments ko.

** Most of the time, ang hirap mamili sa dalawang options.

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Chris: Cheesecake o chocolate

Becky: Sex.

Chris: Puso or isip.

Becky: Laging puso

This line: What if hindi nangyari yung moment that changed your life? Asan ka na ngayon?


Ginusto mo yan, kayanin mo.

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When you’re traveling you have to try everything at least once.  Don’t overthink.

Just remember not to be afraid to try new things. **Tama naman, ano pa nga ba ang silbi ng life kung same routine diba? More mistakes, more fun.

Travel changes your perspective.

Who needs a room when you have everything in your bag?

Ang ganda. Sana maalala ko to forever. **Dang, I think, there are really moments that we want to cherish…forever (if there’s such thing!)

If you want to travel the world, this is the only first of many goodbyes.

When you are a solo traveler, wala kang ibang aasahan kundi ang sarili mo. ** In life, it’s really only you and no one else. 🙂


**Yeah! We would always do things for the people we love.

I just can’t leave everything behind.

Kelan kaya yung ako naman?

Wag ka na kasing magtanong.

Ikaw magsabi kung kailan.

Hindi ka marunong humindi.  Pero mabilis kang humindi sa sarili mo.

Alam mo nung umalis ka yung kapatid mo, umayos.  Ginalingan nga! **People would really do things for themselves. 🙂


**In the end, makikita natin yung mga bagay na higit pa sa hinahanap natin and the only thing left to do is to share it to the world.

Ang sarap ikwento sa taong nakakaintindi. Kanino ko magse-share?

Chris: Ang laki ng atraso ko sayo.

Becky: Pero you changed my life.

Ang hinahanap ko adventure pero hindi lang yun ang nahanap ko. **When you find something greater than what you’re looking for. So, be ready sa kahit anong surprises ng buhay.

The best part of traveling is coming home.

Marunong na kong  humindi sa iba at umo-o sa sarili ko. ** I love this!


Huling side comment, si Jodi bakit ganun? Parang same character siya sa All You Need is Pag-ibig, Achybreaky Heart hanggang dito sa movie na ito. I want to see a different Jodi sa ibang movie niya.

Independent Woman

No one wants to be alone.  At the end of the day, there will always be this thought about having a partner. That someone who will ask about your day. That someone who will be willing to share a life with you.

But not having that person beside you doesn’t mean loneliness. Being alone is NECESSARY. It gives you a tranquil mind to realize that you can really be alone, a person without a partner but happy. It doesn’t mean that you’re closing your door to love and to be loved but it’s never a bad thing to enjoy a little more of yourself.

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People might never understand why I enjoy having a meal or sipping coffee alone. But it makes me happy. It gives me a sense of realization that spending time with myself is happiness. It’s vital to feel comfortable in aloneness and to never feel the need that you’re missing something. That you are independent and would never choose to be in a relationship out of loneliness.

If there will come a day that I would decide to allow someone to join me, I would allow him because it’s going to be a new exciting chapter of my life.

But I will never wait or rush.

Today, I’m enjoying an exciting chapter of my life and I appreciate it.

From being a dependent childish, I am proud that I am now a woman who makes mature decisions for herself. I learned and I have so much more to share.

Just continue being happy. Live in the moment. Be excited for surprises. And celebrate FREEDOM!

HAPPY WOMEN’S DAY!

Project Kapiranggot: Progress Motivation

A weeks ago, I was surprised when Rebecca Louise posted on her IG my progress photo

I was in a way, sad because of slow progress. Eventhough, friends were there to cheer me up and kept on saying that I already made a long way, I still felt like that I was not doing my best.

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This was sent by a new friend

But thanks to the people I meet and would meet who share the same interest and weight struggle. I am very happy to get a chance to talk to people and see comments. I am very much willing to share my journey and to also listen to their stories.

In the end, we are all products of what we think and do. I’m impatient to see more results. WE CAN DO THIS!

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Project Kapiranggot: Progress Requires Time

The saying, “The beginning is always the hardest” is not applicable to me. Losing 17 pounds in 3 months’ time was NEVER EASY.

THE PROCESS IS THE MOST DIFFICULT PART.

Here are some of the few things that I did for the past 3 months. All require Dedication to the following:

1. Healthy Diet. SWEAR NO FAST FOOD FOR 3 MONTHS. I do prepare my own food. One word would summarize my diet: S-T-E-A-M-E-D.

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2. Exercise/Work Out.  I do exercise 5 times a week. MW for ABS and Legs (the workout for the legs has been a problem to me, I usually hate doing it. That’s why I’ll be focusing the next 3 months to exercise lower body). TTH for upper body workout that includes the chest and back. On Fridays, I do TBW (total body workout). Usually, I exercise for 30 minutes to 1 hour and 15 minutes. It would depend on the day and to the kind of workout that I’ll be doing.

3. Having Patience. First, set goals but never be tired when you see no result. I got frustrated during the first month but I still continued and I am now enjoying the improvement.

4. Goals are important. Exercise 5 times a week for 3 months using the same workout routine that I personally created. One advised I got from the internet is to have a SCHEDULE. It is a great help. What I do is, if I have to skip today’s workout, I simply do the schedule for the next day. If you do not have a schedule, the tendency is to not just skip workout but to totally drop it. At least, if you have schedule, you’ll  be reminded about your agenda.

It’s all about DEDICATION. You must be committed to do it.

As I’ve said, I’ve lost 17 pound already but I am still dissatisfied with the result. Flabby arms, bloated stomach and cellulites on my legs are still a BIG ISSUE.

However, I should commend myself for a job well done. But this would  also serve as a warning that I SHOULD NOT STOP.

Sometimes, when the road gets rough we stray from the path and luxuriously does things that would never help us in the first place.

Fitness is a continuous LIFETIME process…

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Focus on Yourself

Sometimes, we are too busy caring for others that we already neglected our own needs. However, we really cannot give more than what we have. If your first priority is not yourself, you’ll just end up being hurt.

Why? You already put your best effort to make that person stay. Making him stay becomes the source of your happiness and losing him scares you.

Listen! All you got to do is focus on yourself. Instead of trying so hard to love someone, love yourself a bit more. Recognize your needs.

Prioritize yourself because it’s the only way that you can give more.

Be happy with your own company. If you can’t… Trust me! You’ll never be happy being with somebody.