Dear Other Self

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Sabi ni Becky sa movie,  “Gusto ko magtravel habang bata pa ko”. Tapos, supportive naman yung tatay niya at sinabi na, “Sige, gawin mo kung ano gusto mo.”

Ewan ko ba, pero never ko talagang pinangarap ang magtravel around the world. Ang boring ko yata. Pero, kanya-kanyang buhay, kanya-kanyang pangarap. At life is a matter of choice. Kanya kanyang trip, kanya kanyang desisyon.

Sabi sa movie, “Filipinos can’t just quit their jobs and leave everything behind.”

Minsan, masyado tayong mapagbigay hanggang sa darating sa point na magsisisi tayo na masyado na tayong nagbigay.

Pero sa totoo lang, kailangan mo rin maging madamot ngayon, para mapuno ka bilang tao para pag overflowing ka na, makapagbigay ka na, ng sobra-sobra at hindi ka mauubos. Ideal, malayo sa reality pero hindi imposible.

Kailangan mo lang panindigan ang desisyon mo. Minsan kasi duwag tayo eh na sumubok. Kaya napapasubo na lang tayo na laging harapin lahat ng problema nakaakibat sa ordinary life pero ang totoo, marami pang bagay bukod dun.

Hindi mo naman kailangang pasanin ang lahat ng problema ng pamilya mo. Sa totoo lang, may freedom  ka na gawin ang gusto mo.

Sabi nga ni Becky sa movie, “Pag di ko siya nagawa ngayon, baka hindi ko na siya magawa.”

Buhay mo yan. Hindi ng nanay mo. Hindi ng tatay mo. Hindi ng kapatid mo. Buhay mo iyan. Gawin mo kung anong gusto mo. Dahil ang bawat tao, gagawa at gagawa ng paraan para makasurvive. It’s not your responsibility to be someone else’s oxygen.

Minsan masyado tayong worried pero ang totoo, we should trust the people we love na kaya nila. Dahil kaya talaga nila.

So, ginawa ko today yung gusto ko. Nanuod ako ng movie tapos nasa ibaba yung mga gusto kong line at ang mga ** bago ang side comments ko.

** Most of the time, ang hirap mamili sa dalawang options.

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Chris: Cheesecake o chocolate

Becky: Sex.

Chris: Puso or isip.

Becky: Laging puso

This line: What if hindi nangyari yung moment that changed your life? Asan ka na ngayon?


Ginusto mo yan, kayanin mo.

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When you’re traveling you have to try everything at least once.  Don’t overthink.

Just remember not to be afraid to try new things. **Tama naman, ano pa nga ba ang silbi ng life kung same routine diba? More mistakes, more fun.

Travel changes your perspective.

Who needs a room when you have everything in your bag?

Ang ganda. Sana maalala ko to forever. **Dang, I think, there are really moments that we want to cherish…forever (if there’s such thing!)

If you want to travel the world, this is the only first of many goodbyes.

When you are a solo traveler, wala kang ibang aasahan kundi ang sarili mo. ** In life, it’s really only you and no one else. 🙂


**Yeah! We would always do things for the people we love.

I just can’t leave everything behind.

Kelan kaya yung ako naman?

Wag ka na kasing magtanong.

Ikaw magsabi kung kailan.

Hindi ka marunong humindi.  Pero mabilis kang humindi sa sarili mo.

Alam mo nung umalis ka yung kapatid mo, umayos.  Ginalingan nga! **People would really do things for themselves. 🙂


**In the end, makikita natin yung mga bagay na higit pa sa hinahanap natin and the only thing left to do is to share it to the world.

Ang sarap ikwento sa taong nakakaintindi. Kanino ko magse-share?

Chris: Ang laki ng atraso ko sayo.

Becky: Pero you changed my life.

Ang hinahanap ko adventure pero hindi lang yun ang nahanap ko. **When you find something greater than what you’re looking for. So, be ready sa kahit anong surprises ng buhay.

The best part of traveling is coming home.

Marunong na kong  humindi sa iba at umo-o sa sarili ko. ** I love this!


Huling side comment, si Jodi bakit ganun? Parang same character siya sa All You Need is Pag-ibig, Achybreaky Heart hanggang dito sa movie na ito. I want to see a different Jodi sa ibang movie niya.

Misunderstood

Sometimes, you feel angry to a friend who hurt you. Simply, you feel misunderstood. But would never want your friends to understand where you are coming from because if they do it only means that they have experienced the kind of pain that you never wish to happen to anyone.

You still want them to believe in ideal things, a bright future and undying love. That preparing for the said future keeps them going for they serve as a balance and remind you of your old self. That once in your life, you have been too anxious of the future.

As a friend, remind them that no one is in control and whatever plans they have for the future will not turn out perfectly as they planned.

There would always be twists in life. And by that time, wish them to see the gift of living in the now.

Planning is good but should not lead to anxiety. The illusive future is beautiful. But nothing beats how the present takes a breath away.

True, it’s not about the plans but how you enjoy the journey, the people as you reach towards the future that you are hoping for.

You don’t live in the future. Don’t let it control you.

Good Enough

Have you ever felt being left behind? In everything? Career? Personal life? Financially?

Have you ever felt that everyone is moving on with his life and here you are, left behind.

Are you really left behind?

They said, there’s a season.

When?

No one knows.

But today, what are you doing?

Are you doing something that might lead you to not be left behind?

Not by everyone but by the person in your head.

“Huli man daw at magaling, maihahabol din.”

If you feel like you’re not good enough then be good enough.

Be good enough until you convinced yourself that you are good enough.

Coffee Project PH

It’s been a while since I have written something about coffee. If there’s one coffee shop that provides comfort, I would recommend Coffee Project in WCC, Shaw.

It provides a personal space to breathe. It’s a perfect place to clear the head and to enjoy ME TIME. 

Kaso lang, hindi ko mapigilan i-recommend yung place sa friends ko, so I ended up bringing friends sa Coffee Project so it’s not anymore a Me time space.

Bago kong tambayan. #coffeeprojectph is life. #kape #coffee #coffeeshop #ph

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January:  The first visit was with the best friend. 🙂 It’s actually a celebration of our birthdays.

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He took a lot of pictures and just sharing some of the captured moments. 🙂

February: Second visit was spontaneous with a few close friends. The approximately 2 km walk didn’t bother us after reaching the place.

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March and April:

Third and fourth, celebrated a good time with my favorite person. Me, myself and I.

Fifth, I visited the place with the same friends but there was a twist.

After visiting Coffee Project, Shaw, we also visited Coffee Project, Lake Front on the same day (we really don’t know why we did that). But the atmosphere is like in Shaw. It didn’t fail to provide the personal space to have a good conversation with friends.

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So, we took a lot of photos and no one can stop us from doing such again…Sooonnn!

And one of my friends said, “Hindi naman na ako nagsisi na nagpunta tayo ng Paranaque.”

I think, the picture doesn’t lie.

May: Sixth visit was for the Team Synergy sponsored by our company.

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So, I have been visiting the place never been absent in any months of this year so far.:)

I hope they would never fail to continue providing the atmosphere of having a good experience with friends. 🙂

So far so good.

Pahabol, staffs are also kind.

A Pause in A Walk

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CBTL Brew Your Best Year x Art of Movement

People who have the same intent always find a way to get close together. I never attended any writing workshop and glad to have the first one with Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf.

The Brew Your Best Year in collaboration with Art of Movement was indeed a great experience. Getting to know new people who have the same passion while having a free coffee and snacks never happens always.

Below is an insight about the experience.

Why are we scared to lose the battle?

If you want it, go for it, even if it breaks you, even if it takes away your life. After all, it is the purpose of existence. It’s a powerful motivation that I keep on telling to myself without realizing that I also need to pause.

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Have you paused today? I have been running for a while now, grasping for air, then here comes the idea of walking.

Walking is associated in everything that we do. We are in a trance of interconnected kaleidoscope. Its’ intricacies of fragmented yet beautiful interconnections, as we maneuver the scope, make the connection vaguely clear. The only thing we could do is to adjust and to appreciate what we clearly see. We have to adjust in order to appreciate what’s in our hand.

Appreciation is a hard-to-define word nowadays for people tend to appreciate the things they don’t have, hence would do any type of maneuvering just to be satisfied with whatever they have. No one is content and no one is perfectly grateful because perfection is boredom.

So we failed to appreciate how perfectly the interconnected intricacies are put together. We failed to see how beautiful life is. We failed to notice the realistic present for we are too excited for the idealism of the future. That we failed to walk today. That we think we should run for we have to finish the marathon faster than the others but it’s exhausting, emotionally draining and spiritually heartbreaking.

Why do we run if all we really need is to walk, to just enjoy the movement of the environment? Why do we have to exhaust ourselves if what we really need is to just breathe?

Today, walking acts as a symbolism of pause. It reminds me that the present serves as an arbiter between the past and the future. That each has his own way to pause to bring back the balance of spontaneity because life is never perfect, unplanned and indeed spontaneous.

The past is just a memory and the future is an illusion. So, no matter how busy and fast-paced life is, I think, we should pause. We should stop and to be just in the moment.

The event made me realize the pauses I had in the past few years and transition those pauses into the future.

Winning the battle isn’t really what is at stake but the moments when we pause to experience life.

Yeah! I think, that’s the reason why we write, to pause, to explore what’s inside us and to outwardly gravitate towards the world.

Phenomenon

People should learn how to detach themselves from anything that pained them. The process is difficult but learning how to be detached from surreal ideas keeps a person not away from pain but to handle the feeling well. It helps a person to channel his energy into something productive. Once you are focused doing things for yourself, it might be a new hobby, a more challenging task at work or simply getting involve on things which you find interesting is a good way to start, you’ll tend to appreciate the phase that you are in right now.

FOCUS IN THE NOW. Listen to people’s ideas, drop the unhelpful thoughts and absorb and reflect on the helpful ones.

Be true to yourself, you are in pain. It hurts so bad because you have no control over it. You can’t change the situation and the only thing you can do is to face the reality that things are not happening the way you want it.  That no matter how much efforts you give, it seems that it would never be enough to get what you want.

Nothing is wrong with you. It’s how you perceive things and your stubbornness that are wrong. Listen, you cannot change a person’s feelings towards you. You can never dictate a person to feel what you want him to feel. And thinking about it all day long is not the right way of handling the process.

LET GO.   You must let it go. Stay focused in the now. Exactly at this very moment, think of what you can do. Exercise? Read a book? Meet a friend? Spend time with yourself? Set goals? Just think of the now, not about tomorrow, not about the future, not about regrets from the past. Inhale. Focus on what you are doing. Don’t think of what might go wrong. Don’t think of not having your heart’s desires.

LET LIFE DO ITS THING. Phenomenon happens for certain reasons. Series of events, human made or not but it does happen in an instance surprisingly without any delay. It shatters life. Catastrophically, changes our plans. Everyone’s life is a series of phenomena, abrupt, life threatening, earth shocking and catastrophic. But phenomena are interesting. It could be tested without even knowing the result of several hypotheses. That propositions can be like people. Some will be solidified through experimentation and some will be nullified, some would stay because we are still curious as to how they affect the phenomena. We postulate hypotheses; we theorize until one’s curiosity is satisfied.

Our feelings, how we associate love to people, how we curiously observe the details, how we cling onto our subjective hypotheses without scientific basis, without being tested, without statistical support will reach a conclusion but now just be in the process…

Project Kapiranggot: Progress Motivation

A weeks ago, I was surprised when Rebecca Louise posted on her IG my progress photo

I was in a way, sad because of slow progress. Eventhough, friends were there to cheer me up and kept on saying that I already made a long way, I still felt like that I was not doing my best.

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This was sent by a new friend

But thanks to the people I meet and would meet who share the same interest and weight struggle. I am very happy to get a chance to talk to people and see comments. I am very much willing to share my journey and to also listen to their stories.

In the end, we are all products of what we think and do. I’m impatient to see more results. WE CAN DO THIS!

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