Dear Other Self

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Sabi ni Becky sa movie,  “Gusto ko magtravel habang bata pa ko”. Tapos, supportive naman yung tatay niya at sinabi na, “Sige, gawin mo kung ano gusto mo.”

Ewan ko ba, pero never ko talagang pinangarap ang magtravel around the world. Ang boring ko yata. Pero, kanya-kanyang buhay, kanya-kanyang pangarap. At life is a matter of choice. Kanya kanyang trip, kanya kanyang desisyon.

Sabi sa movie, “Filipinos can’t just quit their jobs and leave everything behind.”

Minsan, masyado tayong mapagbigay hanggang sa darating sa point na magsisisi tayo na masyado na tayong nagbigay.

Pero sa totoo lang, kailangan mo rin maging madamot ngayon, para mapuno ka bilang tao para pag overflowing ka na, makapagbigay ka na, ng sobra-sobra at hindi ka mauubos. Ideal, malayo sa reality pero hindi imposible.

Kailangan mo lang panindigan ang desisyon mo. Minsan kasi duwag tayo eh na sumubok. Kaya napapasubo na lang tayo na laging harapin lahat ng problema nakaakibat sa ordinary life pero ang totoo, marami pang bagay bukod dun.

Hindi mo naman kailangang pasanin ang lahat ng problema ng pamilya mo. Sa totoo lang, may freedom  ka na gawin ang gusto mo.

Sabi nga ni Becky sa movie, “Pag di ko siya nagawa ngayon, baka hindi ko na siya magawa.”

Buhay mo yan. Hindi ng nanay mo. Hindi ng tatay mo. Hindi ng kapatid mo. Buhay mo iyan. Gawin mo kung anong gusto mo. Dahil ang bawat tao, gagawa at gagawa ng paraan para makasurvive. It’s not your responsibility to be someone else’s oxygen.

Minsan masyado tayong worried pero ang totoo, we should trust the people we love na kaya nila. Dahil kaya talaga nila.

So, ginawa ko today yung gusto ko. Nanuod ako ng movie tapos nasa ibaba yung mga gusto kong line at ang mga ** bago ang side comments ko.

** Most of the time, ang hirap mamili sa dalawang options.

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Chris: Cheesecake o chocolate

Becky: Sex.

Chris: Puso or isip.

Becky: Laging puso

This line: What if hindi nangyari yung moment that changed your life? Asan ka na ngayon?


Ginusto mo yan, kayanin mo.

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When you’re traveling you have to try everything at least once.  Don’t overthink.

Just remember not to be afraid to try new things. **Tama naman, ano pa nga ba ang silbi ng life kung same routine diba? More mistakes, more fun.

Travel changes your perspective.

Who needs a room when you have everything in your bag?

Ang ganda. Sana maalala ko to forever. **Dang, I think, there are really moments that we want to cherish…forever (if there’s such thing!)

If you want to travel the world, this is the only first of many goodbyes.

When you are a solo traveler, wala kang ibang aasahan kundi ang sarili mo. ** In life, it’s really only you and no one else. 🙂


**Yeah! We would always do things for the people we love.

I just can’t leave everything behind.

Kelan kaya yung ako naman?

Wag ka na kasing magtanong.

Ikaw magsabi kung kailan.

Hindi ka marunong humindi.  Pero mabilis kang humindi sa sarili mo.

Alam mo nung umalis ka yung kapatid mo, umayos.  Ginalingan nga! **People would really do things for themselves. 🙂


**In the end, makikita natin yung mga bagay na higit pa sa hinahanap natin and the only thing left to do is to share it to the world.

Ang sarap ikwento sa taong nakakaintindi. Kanino ko magse-share?

Chris: Ang laki ng atraso ko sayo.

Becky: Pero you changed my life.

Ang hinahanap ko adventure pero hindi lang yun ang nahanap ko. **When you find something greater than what you’re looking for. So, be ready sa kahit anong surprises ng buhay.

The best part of traveling is coming home.

Marunong na kong  humindi sa iba at umo-o sa sarili ko. ** I love this!


Huling side comment, si Jodi bakit ganun? Parang same character siya sa All You Need is Pag-ibig, Achybreaky Heart hanggang dito sa movie na ito. I want to see a different Jodi sa ibang movie niya.

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Misunderstood

Sometimes, you feel angry to a friend who hurt you. Simply, you feel misunderstood. But would never want your friends to understand where you are coming from because if they do it only means that they have experienced the kind of pain that you never wish to happen to anyone.

You still want them to believe in ideal things, a bright future and undying love. That preparing for the said future keeps them going for they serve as a balance and remind you of your old self. That once in your life, you have been too anxious of the future.

As a friend, remind them that no one is in control and whatever plans they have for the future will not turn out perfectly as they planned.

There would always be twists in life. And by that time, wish them to see the gift of living in the now.

Planning is good but should not lead to anxiety. The illusive future is beautiful. But nothing beats how the present takes a breath away.

True, it’s not about the plans but how you enjoy the journey, the people as you reach towards the future that you are hoping for.

You don’t live in the future. Don’t let it control you.

Phenomenon

People should learn how to detach themselves from anything that pained them. The process is difficult but learning how to be detached from surreal ideas keeps a person not away from pain but to handle the feeling well. It helps a person to channel his energy into something productive. Once you are focused doing things for yourself, it might be a new hobby, a more challenging task at work or simply getting involve on things which you find interesting is a good way to start, you’ll tend to appreciate the phase that you are in right now.

FOCUS IN THE NOW. Listen to people’s ideas, drop the unhelpful thoughts and absorb and reflect on the helpful ones.

Be true to yourself, you are in pain. It hurts so bad because you have no control over it. You can’t change the situation and the only thing you can do is to face the reality that things are not happening the way you want it.  That no matter how much efforts you give, it seems that it would never be enough to get what you want.

Nothing is wrong with you. It’s how you perceive things and your stubbornness that are wrong. Listen, you cannot change a person’s feelings towards you. You can never dictate a person to feel what you want him to feel. And thinking about it all day long is not the right way of handling the process.

LET GO.   You must let it go. Stay focused in the now. Exactly at this very moment, think of what you can do. Exercise? Read a book? Meet a friend? Spend time with yourself? Set goals? Just think of the now, not about tomorrow, not about the future, not about regrets from the past. Inhale. Focus on what you are doing. Don’t think of what might go wrong. Don’t think of not having your heart’s desires.

LET LIFE DO ITS THING. Phenomenon happens for certain reasons. Series of events, human made or not but it does happen in an instance surprisingly without any delay. It shatters life. Catastrophically, changes our plans. Everyone’s life is a series of phenomena, abrupt, life threatening, earth shocking and catastrophic. But phenomena are interesting. It could be tested without even knowing the result of several hypotheses. That propositions can be like people. Some will be solidified through experimentation and some will be nullified, some would stay because we are still curious as to how they affect the phenomena. We postulate hypotheses; we theorize until one’s curiosity is satisfied.

Our feelings, how we associate love to people, how we curiously observe the details, how we cling onto our subjective hypotheses without scientific basis, without being tested, without statistical support will reach a conclusion but now just be in the process…

Chasing

Chasing for the things that we think will make us a person completely is what we do everyday. Also, it makes us think that we’re running out of time to pursue our hopes.

But at some point in our lives, we realized that the things that we chased for are really not the things that could make us happy. It’s only time that makes us realize the everything happens at the perfect moment.

We just have to be firm about our pursuit and let it happen in time.